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Engaging families

October 1, 2010
by Brenda Abbott-Shultz
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Enhancing the relationship among residents, their families, and your community

Successful relations with our residents require that we establish trusting, lasting relationships with their families. Sometimes that is easier to say than it is to actually execute. Families are spread across the country, there are more family members requesting to be involved, the legal decision making is often shared among many siblings, consumers have become educated (and at times, pessimistic) about long-term care services, and placement decisions are frequently made during a crisis. All of these variables could be viewed as obstacles to successful relationship-building.

However, armed with knowledge and a “customer experience” mind-set, we can overcome those potential obstacles and create relationships that both residents and their families view as valuable and successful.

Making decisions

How do families decide where their loved ones will be placed? Often the decision is made at the height of a crisis: Mom wandered away, dad fell and broke his hip, auntie mismanaged her 18 medications and had an adverse reaction. Regardless of the issue, decisions are made quickly. We know that several factors come into play before a final decision is made. Yet families tell us that the initial staff connection is of particular importance to them. If they feel that they are part of a “transaction” as opposed to a relationship, they will take their business elsewhere. This is our first opportunity to establish the relationship and the time invested up front will pay dividends.

Relationship building

It is highly important to transition ourselves from a transaction-oriented sales process to a real relationship-building experience. Decisions to place loved ones in the care of someone else are heartbreaking. Family members often have guilt about placement-especially if they've promised they would never do that. Searching for a community can be frustrating and confusing. We often lose sight of how complicated the healthcare environment is because this is the life we live day in and out. For residents and their families this can be the first exposure to our industry. We need to remember this and at every interaction focus on being the experts by educating the resident/family members. That guidance is another powerful relationship-building tool.

Once a family has decided to place its loved one at your community, take the opportunity to establish move-in criteria. All paperwork should be completed prior to the move-in, all medications should be present, and the resident's room should be set up with his or her personal belongings. Every staff member in the community should be aware that the resident is coming and should know some interesting personal information about them as a way to start conversations. Having everything ready at move-in enables the community's staff to focus on the resident/family member's integration into the community.

Another great relationship-building tool is to set a first-week goal with the family member. This could be as simple as ensuring that “mom” has attended one activity and met one resident with similar interests. The power in this goal-setting is that the community and family member are establishing it together. It demonstrates collaboration; when it is achieved at the end of week one it is your first opportunity to demonstrate that you can deliver on your promises.

Expectations up front

Setting communication expectations up front is a great way to prevent many future problems. Lack of communication is one of the biggest customer dissatisfiers in healthcare, according to satisfaction polls. Find out who needs to be communicated to, about what, and when-billing issues, medical issues, invites to attend events, etc. Also establish the family's preferred communication methods. Is e-mail easiest? Do they want voice contact? Is cell phone the easiest way to reach them? This is the single most important relationship-building tool that you have access to.

Addressing problems

After move-in, issues will arise because we are individuals caring for individuals. The very nature of what we do sets the stage for conflict. How we address problems can further enhance or erode our relationships. There are key concepts to keep in mind:

  • Do it right the first time. Service recovery becomes unnecessary.

  • Welcome and encourage complaints. You cannot solve what you do not know exists. View all feedback (both positive and negative) as a gift.

  • Apologize for the issue and inconvenience. Apologizing is not an admittance of guilt. It is purely an empathetic response to someone's distress.

  • Act quickly to address the issue. If you cannot fix it, then at least set timelines for communication and meet them.

  • Be proactive in all communications by delivering messages or conveying information as far in advance as possible. If you know a family is unhappy about something, reach out to them immediately. Do not wait for them to seek you out. Be positive and genuinely invested in resolving their concerns. Think about the issues that you have raised with any establishment. Did you want resolution immediately or whenever they got around to it?